One of my online friends (from The Netherlands) was chatting with a group of us the other day. He simply said:

“Success is something you give yourself. It is permitting yourself to be worthy.” – Taufiq de Water

(I told him I loved his quote, and I’d like to use it. He said he would be honored.)

How you you think of your success and self-worth?

When thinking of success, people often think of monetary/financial wealth for a measure of success. In fact, most people often equate success with financial wealth. True success has so much more to do with all aspects of a person’s life, than money alone. And who is to judge your life?

Who makes the decisions about what is right or wrong for you? Do you give this control to others? Many of us do just that. We measure our own ‘success’ with what others think of us. How valid is that? Only as valid as we allow it to be. Seriously. Think about it.

If you give the control to others to measure your own success, you’re locked into their reality. Everything you do, you measure against what others might think about you. What makes us so worried about what others think?

The feeling you get about your self-worth and how others affect you

Ultimately, it’s rejection. If they make fun of you, talk negatively about somethig you said or did, shun you, tell you you’re ignorant for thinking ‘that,’ and/or embarrass you in front of others, you feel rejected.

When your reality is based on what others think, you’re not living your own life.

Success is truly ‘permitting yourself to be worthy’ as my friend’s quote says. It’s a deep ‘knowing’ that you are a valid human being, and knowing that you matter to you, regardless of what others think.

Are you in a healthy work environment?

A healthy work environment requires that you’re treated well. Even more importnt is how you feel about yourself at work. When you’re constantly and consistently being treated badly at work, either micro-managed, or your ideas are always ignored, and you’re made to feel like you don’t matter for even thinking ‘that,’ why would you want to continue to work there? When people are truly unhappy at their jobs, no amount of money can make up for it. We all know of people who have quit their jobs due to unhappiness. The money becomes irrelevant. Again, it’s just money, therefore simply a tool for your use.

How many times have you heard of ‘millionaires’ who are unhappy.

What’s the point of having all the money you could possibly have, when you’re still unhappy with your life, your situation, your job, and your everything? Is it any wonder the financially wealthy can so easily turn to purchasing drugs and excesses in alcohol? Or they buy all kinds of ‘stuff?’ Of course, not all wealthy people do this. (And, yes, people who are not financially wealthy also do this.)

The point is that money won’t make ‘you’ a success. It’s just money, which is a form of exchange. You can do successful things with money, but the money itself isn’t the success.

A successful human being feels good about the decisions they make

Successful people feel good about making choices that not everyone will like. If you’re a volunteer, making minimal wages, and you are happy doing what you do, and would have it no other way, you’re successful. Some people with lots of money might look down upon you. They might think you’re not worthy of their time and energy. Who cares?!

This narrow-minded point of view is a type of emotional and mental disharmony. It’s called arrogance. As much as we would love for people to see their own arrogance, we can only hope that one day they’ll do just that.

There’s no way to control it, and can only put up our own ‘safety barriers’ when we’re around these people. Just what are those safety barriers?—the knowledge and knowing that we’re valuable and worthy, regardless of what they think.

Personal relationships can be a catalyst for low self-worth

If your personal relationships are not working, yet you have no financial worries in the world, are you successful? Is this success to you? Is all the money you have affecting the relationships? What is your part in the dysfunction of the relationships?

It might feel great driving around in that Tesla. Momentarily impressing friends makes us feel good. But feeling good about you, especially when you are alone…that is your barometer for happiness. Can you be happy alone? Can you be happy around others? Can you be in a good state of mind most all of the time?

If adversity comes your way, can you work through it to find that place of comfort? Are you happy and content when things are absolutely quiet. Are you comfortable speaking your mind?

We all know people who constantly ‘vent’ their woes publicly online

They tell everyone how they’re feeling throughout the day, constantly, day in and day out. (Yes, we can block…lol). Rambling on and on is not going to change anything. These people are seeking validation, and they are sucking the energy out of others (those who choose to constantly respond with ‘oh poor you’ responses). They want attention. They need attention.

When you feel good about your worthiness and value, you don’t need this kind of energy. People’s good energy will just come to you.

You’re the one who has to want to find tools to make changes

Only you can change the thinking process that will allow a change in your life.

You’re the one who must ask, seek, and explore the possibilities all around you. They’re there for you. We’re often so blinded by what others think, that we close ourselves off to the possibilities.

What will they think? Yes, we’re back to that…lol…what will others think?

If you’re happy, feel good about you (self-esteem), and value yourself (self-worth), you are successful. That is the bottom line.

Get your power back. Find your success. Find your place of happiness and contentment. See your own worthiness.

~ Clara E Minor

P.S. If you’d like a plan to get you on your way, contact me. Yes, call me Contact Me, or send me an email. We’ll check out your possibilities.